Thursday, 12 October 2023

Hermit by Jade Angeles Fitton

 Finished this interesting book.






When Jade's partner leaves the barn that they moved into just weeks before, he leaves a dent in the wall and her life unravelled. Numbed from years in the destructive relationship, she faces an uncertain future and complete solitude. Slowly, with the help of Devon's salted cliffs and damp forested footpaths, Jade comes back to life and discovers the power of being alone.

Through conversations with other hermits across the world, Fitton sheds light on an extraordinary and misunderstood way of living which has survived into the 21st century - from monks, to hikikomori, and the often ignored female hermit.

Lyrically written, this is an inspirational story of recovery, of finding home and of celebration of solitude in the natural world.


Jade is originally from Devon and after living and working in London for several years as a writer and journalist she and her violent partner moved from London back to Devon when he couldn't afford to live in London. They rented a remote barn conversion on Exmoor, but he continued to be angry and violent and drinking too much and finally left after getting a job back in London.
It was then that she realised just how controlling he had been and she starts to enjoy being alone in the wild landscape, even though she has no transport and relies on her mother to fetch her for shopping once a month.
She writes about other people who have enjoyed being alone in various places especially Hope Bourne whose book about her life in an old caravan on Exmoor  - Wild Harvest - I have mentioned before on the blog two years ago. The post is HERE.
When she can no longer afford the rent of the barn she moved into a holiday let cottage in Croyde, north Devon where she had grown up. She works as a cleaner for the owner while still trying to write and get published.
Later Jade got married to someone - not much description of how they met - who understood her need to sometimes be alone. They went out to live and work on Lundy Island just off the Devon coast and a lot of the book is descriptions of the beauty and wildness of a place that was very quiet through lockdowns.
At the end of the book she is offered a job abroad.

 

This is a poor review as I'm not really sure about what I thought of this book, having never been in a violent relationship I couldn't imagine how it went on so long. The interesting parts were about other hermits in history and the descriptions of Lundy during lockdown.

At least it's good to know that I'm not odd because I'm alone and don't crave company at all! 

Thank you to everyone who commented about Leeks yesterday and some more comments about the scrapbooks too.


Back Tomorrow
Sue

23 comments:

  1. I don't think it is at all odd to need and crave solitude, Sue. It's nice to have it affirmed like that from time to time though. It sounds a really interesting read. xx

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    1. The writing about Lundy and it's nature was good

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  2. There is a world of difference between loneliness and solitude. Moments when we ache for company, and times when we long just to be alone. It sounds like Jade has described her situation well. I cannot imagine what it must be like to be trapped in a violent, controlling relationship - I'm glad she has found love and peace on Lundy. Thanks for the review

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    1. It was interesting to read and I'm glad I'm rarely lonely

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  3. I call it not being peopley. I would far rather my own company to being in a crowded room surrounded by people. There is a considerable difference between being alone and being lonely.
    Yesterday, I found so many references online to David and leeks that I'm going to speak to my friend, a retired Bishop, who is a scholar on the life of Saint David, and have also emailed the librarian at the Cathedral. Curiosity piqued!

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  4. During lockdown I found myself living a rather solitary life - and was surprised how much I enjoyed it.

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    1. I'm glad I'm not lonely - life would be difficult

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  5. I don't mind being alone but I don't think I could live an isolated life. The lives of those who do are interesting, though.

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    1. We used to think about a quiet property in the middle of nowhere but it would have been hard work with children. Village living is handy

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  6. I don't think I would want to read the book. I have had two controlling relationships, both very long ago, and would not like to experience it again nor read about anything like it, they are just too horrible to think about. I like living alone and my own company but also seeing people from time to time and being involved in things, but reading about it, not really.

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    1. The bits about Lundy were good but reading about all the violence wasn't

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  7. There are lots of homeless in the countryside. I have also seen people living in vans, yurts, caravans, log cabins and even an old cowshed.

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    1. They call it hidden poverty don't they, and very little help in country villages

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  8. I think I'd love to read this, and despite the sad bits sounds like it's a story of hope.
    Alison in Wales x

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  9. My ex was very controlling and could be violent. I suspect that reading this book might be difficult for me. 25 years later, I still crave my solitude. I understand the book. Silence heals, and when the clutter of outraged words is swept out the door, you can begin to think again.

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    1. She had beautiful coast and countryside to help to heal her

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  10. It's a change to read about contented solitude, since often it's not respected. To be a "loner" is often seen with suspicion in an extroverted world.

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  11. With the exception of the violent relationship, this sounds like a good read. Devon is a lovely seaside landscape. I need my space and open landscapes with long views.

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    1. It was interesting - reading about Lundy Island and other hermits through time were the best parts

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  12. It’s available at my library so have popped it on myTBR list to order sometime.

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