What do you say when someone asks "How are you?"
I started a new way of answering a while ago. I now say "I'm really, really well thank you".
And the best thing is that the more often I say "I'm really well" then the better I feel. I realise how lucky I am to have no serious health issues and no family or money problems, but I could spend my time feeling cheated out of all the things Colin and I had planned to do in his retirement, but negativity has been chucked out!
Positivity is the way forward, long may it last.
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Sue
Good attitude! A young friend of mine tragically widowed very young told me her mantra was going to be "Straight ahead now!". So brave.
ReplyDeleteWell done you!
ReplyDeleteThat's a great attitude. I've been feeling sorry for myself lately. I really need to look at all the things I'm thankful for and try to stop dwelling on what could have, should have, been.
ReplyDeleteI love that response! I'm going to take ie, okay!
ReplyDeleteI find negativity in others brings me down so I try to avoid them. We are certainly fortunate in our lives given what else is going on in the world.
ReplyDeleteI love a good dose of positivity - good for you! xx
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ReplyDeleteWhat I meant to say was……Too right Sue - only way to go!
DeleteYou are obviously a Radiator and not a Drain. I try to avoid Drains at all costs, there is enough negativity about without adding to it. Long may Radiators rule. Love your outlook. Sandra.
ReplyDeleteMy grandad was fond of that song "Accentuate the Positive, Eliminate the Negative, and don't mess with Mr In-Between". I shall be humming this all day now. Bless you, Sue for your attitude and your resilience - an encouragement to so many.
ReplyDeleteI agree, long may it reign!
ReplyDeleteSpeaking about Drains: a very long time ago I spent a year in Australia and I had to get used to this 'How are you' thing ( in The Netherlands we just say good morning etc.). My BiL warned me about a neighbour: 'Don't ask how she is, 'cos she'll tell you!'
ReplyDeleteI am trying to follow your example. Every day I wake up will be another good day ..... hopefully!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great post and so true to you. I have been reading your blog for many years and have always been impressed by your positive get on with it approach.
ReplyDeleteReminds me of that old Stanley Holloway song in which people keep saying, 'My word, you do look queer'. He feels worse and worse until someone says, 'My word, you do look well!' He immediately feels better.
ReplyDeleteI am amazed at how you have pulled things together when life has not been a bed of roses. My answer to the question is 'absolutely brilliant thank you'.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lot of people seem to forget is that in Britain asking someone "how are you?" on meeting is not a question to be taken literally but is merely a standard greeting and the answer should be "fine thank you, and you?" In fact years ago we didn't have to go through any of this at all but now it seems that people from all walks of lifeand age seem to use this or similar as a standard greeting. I like to answer it quickly as above and get on with the real conversation.
ReplyDeleteA lovely positive attitude to have
ReplyDeleteAlison in Wales x
I agree entirely, a positive attitude is important. Some people wallow in negativity and it helps nobody, least of all the individual wallowing.
ReplyDeleteWell done Sue. x
ReplyDeleteAs I'm still at that feeling "cheated of our retirement" stage of bereavement, I must take a leaf out of your book, Sue. Might be a bit too soon right now, but definitely in the future.
ReplyDeleteI hope that lady from Somerset is taking notes.
ReplyDeleteAn absolutely brilliant attitude to have Sue. I LOVE positive people, it was only when my Dad died that I realised that he and I were the two positives in the family and my Mum and brother are the two negatives. An hour in their company and I feel really drained as I have to try so hard to keep things upbeat, whereas a visit when my Dad was still alive was always invigorating and fun ... or at the very least balanced.
ReplyDeleteIf someone asks me how I am I always respond with 'fine thanks, how are you?' ... and keep my fingers crossed that I don't get a list of ailments and problems.