Thank you for so many comments on my post. I still seem to be OK, with lots of help and support from so many people.
I had a whole load of posts in Drafts and I do love writing so I will keep blogging - a little bit of normal in between all the things that are not normal............and the Things You Have To Do are certainly not normal.
Many years ago I worked in the Borough Library in Bury St Edmunds, an old fashioned library and every morning before the library opened we tidied all the shelves. 2 people did the fiction one week and non fiction the next, while another 2 people did the other way round and then we all finished off by doing the junior library. Strict Dewey Decimal for the non-fiction and alphabetical for the fiction, then all the books had to be pulled to the front of the shelves and moved around so that they weren't too tight on the shelves or too loose so that they all fell over.
Anyway, all that is a preamble to mention a book that always seemed to be on the shelves, no one seemed to borrow it. The book was a Which guide.......'What to do when someone dies'. Of course no one borrowed it, we are a superstitious lot in Suffolk. Borrowing the book if you didn't need it would be 'tempting fate' and by the time you did need it it would be a hassle to have to rush to the library to get it.
Thankfully the hospital have a special booklet they hand out when someone passes away there. It lists all the official things that need doing. The first one is to ring the Bereavement Office and ask for the Medical Certificate to be completed by the doctor. This was a slow process because Colin passed away on a Friday afternoon and I rang and left a message on the Saturday which wasn't picked up until Monday and then the doctor didn't sign the certificate until late Tuesday, so the Bereavement Office people couldn't go up to the ward to get it until Wednesday morning and I couldn't pick it up until Wednesday afternoon. I rang the Registrars but couldn't get an appointment until Thursday morning and a death is supposed to be registered with 5 days and Thursday was 6 days. It was all OK as a note had been attached to the Medical Certificate to explain the delay.
The Registrars office is in Stowmarket, the same building where Colin and I were married in September 1979.
The Registrar asks a few questions and needs the medical certificate and birth certificate and other details and then issues the death certificates and a form that has to go to the Funeral Directors. So that was my next stop and an appointment made for next week, to sort things out. I'm so glad we are back in Mid Suffolk, it all seems so much more familiar - the Funeral Directors have been used for all family members - they've been in the town for 85 years! Strange really, that despite living over by the coast for 23 years, Stowmarket, the town that I lived in or near for the first 37 years of my life is much more like my Home Town than Saxmundham or Leiston ever were.
Back in a while